Tell her you care for her
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old MaleI have fallen for my friend. My best friend, to be exact. I've known her for 11 years (she's 21 and I'm 19), but we never really got to know each other until about six months ago. Sometime around December, I developed some sort of attatchment to her. Since then it's got much more intense. In the past she's stated things such as "You're like the younger brother I never had" and "I wish I could find a guy like that" (the latter in reference to songs about the "nice guy," who I happen
to be). She has also said things pertaining to relationships, but I don't know what to make of
them. For the last few weeks I've been fretting over weather or not I should tell her how I feel. This situation is very confusing to me. I've never had such intense feelings for anyone before. She's the quiet type that's not really
into the dating scene. After seeking adive from others, the guys have said "go for it" while the ladies have said "don't." This baffles me. It's totally stressing me out trying to decide what I should do. I really wouldn't want to hurt her or lose her as a friend. Is there any other way besides directly asking her, to find out if she's interested? Thanks for any insight you can provide.
RomanceClass.com AdviceThis isn't an easy thing to do, but the best thing is to be honest with her. Say that you are developing strong feelings for her but that you don't want the feelings to interfere with your friendship. She should appreciate the honesty and the fact that you care about your friendship. Since you are such good friends, and since she is 21, I think she will be able to handle your honest approach. So here is another guy saying "Go for it"
Good luck,
George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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