How can I get over my jealousy issue and move on so we can both be happy?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old FemaleMy fiance and I just got back together after 7 years apart. We dated when I was 16, and I wasent ready to settle down. He ended up going to jail for 5 years and we kept in contact during that time. When I turned 18 I moved to Kansas City, MO which is far from my Maine residence. I met a man and instantly fell in love. Unfortunately I was so in love I couldnt escape the physical and mental abuse. I ended up getting pregnant at 18 and moving back to Maine alone at 19. Duto this man's extensive cheating and abuse I am very jealous now and afraid of being cheated on again. Being back together with my ex is so comforting, he is home with me every night, accepted my biracial child as his own (he is white), works, and rarely spends any time with his friends duto my jealousy issue. I do occasionally catch him glimpsing or staring at another attractive woman. (Maybe duto being locked down for so long?) How can I get over my jealousy issue and move on so we can both be happy?
RomanceClass.com AdviceJealousy is a real threat to a relationship.
Once you are jealous, you will probably always have at least a slight tendency to be jealous. But you can root out most of it by out-psyching your own mind.
What you do is wait for a jealous feeling to come up and when it does immediately jump on it and literally tell it to go away, that your bf loves you and you have nothing to worry about. It may take 100 times of doing this before the jealous feelings give up trying to bother you.
Here is a webpage with tips on jealousy:
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
Hope some of this helps! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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