I cant imagine my day without thinking about him!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old FemaleMe and my ex boyfriend broke up around 8 maybe 9 months ago, and he is still all I can ever think about, I never got a reason why him and I broke up, but when we did I was really upset over it, I couldnt eat or hardly sleep for 2 weeks straight, he lives in a different provience,because after we broke up I couldnt bare it anymore, and I had to more back to my home! I try to call but he refuses to answer me phone calls, he will pick up and hear its me and hang up! it hurts me so bad because I dont understand why he cant just talk to me! When we were going out, we were so close we used to spend every signle day together, we were just so close on so many different levels, like we would cry together because we loved eachother so much and we were so happy, so i have no idea where and how things went wrong! the summer past i started doing stupid stuff like taking pills and drinking to try and die, but ive overcome that and have gotten help,and I no longer feel that way! i wish so much that him and i never broke up! I wish I was still with him, but i do not want to be with him again, I was to be with him still, i wouldnt be able to be with him again because if it didnt last before it probably wont last this time! I just want to get over him, and this is by far the hardest thing ive ever had to do! I dated other guys or whatever but still always in the back of my mind...hes there and I just cant get him out, I havent went a day without thinking of him since ive known him, and I cant imagine my day without thinking about him! can you please help me and tell me what to do! please im going crazy and im on stress medication to help me! i need some advice please! thanks a lot!
RomanceClass.com AdviceNo advice over the Internet is going to help you much.
You have already sought counseling and medical attention, which is a very good thing. But if they can't help you, how can I?
Once I was in your same situation. I couldn't be with the woman I loved and it was for forever (she married). What helped me get through it was knowing that she was happy (which was very important to me). Also, I accepted the finality of it after a long time of grieving.
In your case, convince yourself that it is final and that you are the kind of person (like me) who takes a long time to heal. But you will heal, I'm sure.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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