Getting my Husband BackWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female My husband has just broken up with me after a year and a half of marriage, we hae been together nearly six years. He said that he des not love me anymore, but that nothing is wrong in fact that everthing was perfect. He said he would do anything to feel the love that we had for each other again. He says that he could not lie to me and feels that he does not love me anymore, but is ashamed of himself for hurting me so much because he cares for me. I really love him and feel that we were made for each other, he feels this as well. We are both finding it very hard to understand why this has happened. He has said that he does not know how something so hard and that feels so wrong can be right, but he thinks it is. We are both remaining friends and we are getting on ok it is uncomfortable and i have noticed him looking at me in the way he used too. anyway i just want some advice about getting him back. I am moving back to where i came from, which is a couple of hundred miles away and we will talk on the phone all of the time, but i really want him back. Thank you for your help. User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female Hold our heads up I am definitely not a counselor by any means. My husband left me after a year of marriage. I came home to a note on the table. He had lost his job the day before and decided that he would move back to Nashville with his mom which is two hours away from me. He initially stated that he just needed time and space and that he would possibly come home to me. But that didn't happen and the distance and possibly me nagging and begging ulitimately ended in us divorcing. BUT, I know that I was faithful and did not want anything but the best for us. Even if it seemed like I was pushing. I now come to the realization that he took the cowards way out and all my begging, praying and pleading for counseling dindn't work. I love this man with every breathe of my body. My life has been sooo empty since Sept 2, of last year when he left. Oh, my advice to myself and to you I guess. Is hold our heads up. If these men decide that they want us and if God wants us to be with these men. Everything will work itself out with time and with the help of friends and family. If not, Their is someone out there that will no exactly what he wants and we will grow to love someone else. Until then we have to have peace and take care of ourselves. Men can come and go. But family members and good friends are irreplaceable. When we least expect it and with lots of prayer and peace of mind everything will be ok. I would like advice also on how to trust again. Ginny The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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