We lived together and were engaged but we found to have severe irreconcilable differencesWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male I was with a girl for 4 years. We lived together and were engaged but we found to have severe irreconcible differences and mutually went different directions. After two months I realized how much I love her as my do not quit mentality kicked in. I tried to get her back but to find that she said she's been seeing someone else and I believe right after we broke up and with a co-worker of hers. Despite our problems we had a very loving relationship and cared deeply for each other. So how come I feel that after a relationship of that magnitude she is giving me a big screw you and having me feel that the past four years was nothing to her to where she shoved ahead so quickly? But I have no idea the status of her new "relationship." I just feel like the breakup never bothered her. And that really hurts. Thanks, K User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female tell her you love her when I read your question I couldn't help but think of my own situation and if I tell you about it, it may make you feel better about things. I was with someone for three years. We broke up but then hung out every weekend until July 21 when he told me he was dating another girl, a co-worker of his. I'm pretty sure there is no "status" in this realtionship because he doens't want one. I was shocked because my ex is not very outgoing and I thought he would only actually try to get a girlfriend unless he needed to fill a "void" I wasn't filling anymore. So I was heartbroken about this new girl so I did some investigating and found out she had just been engaged two weeks before and was using my ex boyfriend as a rebound since he is such an easy target. Now your situation sounds similar to the situation her ex fiance must be going through and if he wanted her back, like you want your fiance back. If he knew, he would see that this realtionship between his ex fiance and this co-worker will not last long. Just wait tell her you love her and be her best friend. You don't know what this guy is like, but more than likely, its not going to work. hope this helps! The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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