I Drove her Away - I Want her Back NowWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male I have a problem where although I want a serious, fully committed relationship, when I'm actually in one, I don't want it, although I feel that the person is right for me. This was my first girlfriend and I ended up hurting her a lot because I have first said, "I would want to stay with her forever," and then I ended up saying, "I'm stuck with you until I find someone better to replace you." as I think back, I don't know why I even said I want someone else. Now that I don't have her, I want her back, but because I hurt her too much, she won't take me back. The problem doesn't end here. This is bothering me consciously and subconsciously that I hurt her and I can't seem to sleep (I wake up randomly at nights when I subconsciously think about her) and I have turned bellimic. Please, I don't know what to do. Should I tell her my problem and beg her to come back to me or what can I do to get over this relationship? (It's been over a month since we broke up) User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male Well when you said that you want someone else, you broke her trust in you. And once someones trust is gone it's regain it again. I am not sure if she has moved on or not, but if you really want her, you need to ask her out, bring to nice and calm place, and tell her that you understood everything, tell her all your feelings towards her. Don't push her anywhere and nicely ask her, if you can get back to her. Remember don't say come back to me, say "Can I Get Back to You." Hope she still has feelings for you, best of luck! The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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