Friend is a lesbian



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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
Hi I would like to thank you in advance for all the wonderful work you have done to create this site, I use it frequently. My question is that I have been friends with a girl for about two and a half monthes now and I have become quite atracted to her recently she told me she was a lesbian I am wondering what the best way to respond in this situation is thank you very much.




User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Trust first


The way I see it, you are attracted to her and she is a lesbian, right? I don't think you provided enough information. Did you start becoming attracted to her after she told you she was a lesbian or did you like her before? Because maybe you are just really close to her and share a lot of personal information. In my experiences I've noticed that when I get too close to someone where we spend a lot of time together and talk a lot, I get emotionally close and attracted to them. But in your case, I think you are too young and more than anything, you don't know this girl that well. You can't know everything about somenone in as little as 2 1/2 months. I say keep being friends with her and get to know her better. You never know, she might like you back after time and maybe some things between you two might happen unexpectedly. See if you can trust her first.

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