He needed space, and now he expects me to move onWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I was with my boyfriend for 6 years. During those years,, we talked about getting married and we thought we'd be together forever (not just me - many times his suggestion). At the time, we just didn't have the money, as we were both students. Last year I had to go away for school, and he started working. We kept doing the long distance thing and we talked every day on the webcam, and we visited each other every couple of weeks, and holidays. When we spoke we still seemed so in love and when we saw eachother nothing had changed. But then a couple months ago, he told me that he didn't feel the same way he used to. He still loved me, but just not at the same level. What does that mean? We agreed to work on it, he said maybe he was just overly busy with work. We went away to Europe in the summer and I thought things had gotten a lot better. Things seemed great until last week, when after cuddling with me and being nice all day, he says ... we need to talk. He said he didn't know what he wanted, he needed space, and now he expects me to move on. Am I crazy to hope he'll come back? I love him with all my heart and can't imagine not being with him. User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Let him know you care My ex is saying simular things, we are now good friends but I also really want him back...perhaps after thinking and having space urs mite see wat he wants, but i for mine try to encourage him to find things he enjoys and can live for, whether it be a sport,hobby or just getting the self confidience to feel better about himself because his family puts him down alot, i do hope that he still wants to be with me. maybe his work and other things is putting too much stress on him and he doesnt feel like he can handle a relationship right now. I do hope your ex comes back, i really want mine back too. just give him the space he needs and keep working on yours with a friendly distance but also makeing sure he knows you still really care. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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