Getting Over my ExWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago.I'm only 14 and me and him went out for 4 months.I dunno if that would be considered long or what.But those for months of my life were the best.I had my first kiss with him and first guy I actually got close to.I fell in love with him.I loved him so much. But within those four months me and him broke up twice..but went back out within a week.So..when we broke up this time I was hoping we'd go back out soon.But its been a month now and we haven't yet.And I still like him SO much..and I might even still love him. He's already went out with 2 others girls.So..I believe he's moved on and doesn't like me anymore.But now were still talk like 3 hours on the phone every night,and were good friends.But then at school he can sometimes act like a real jerk..But everytime I'll see him with his girlfriend at the time( he's single right now) or flirting with another girl it just kills me.It seems like all I ever do is think about him.I feel as if I'm obssessed.Which I don't like. I want to move on,forget about him.But everytime I try or I think I am.Then all of a sudden I start thinking about all the great memories of being with him.And I start to like him more and more.Then even at times I almost cry. Why does it still hurt so much?I still hope we'll go back out.But me and him has talked about it,we decided that it probably wouldn't work out and didn't want to go through all the pain we felt when we broke up.But I'm still feeling it.Should I tell him how I feel?What should I do?Or should I just keep trying to get over him?If so how? User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female by the way you talk about him it seems as if you still want to be in the relationship. You should tell him how you feel for sure but make sure you know how you feel before you talk to him. i'm 18 and I have gone through many a break up and if you 2 don't get back together I can granentee you that even though it hurts now you will get over it your only 14 I just got out of a 2and a half year realtionship about two months ago and I know I loved him but after all this time I found someone new and I am able to make a wonderful realtionship with him so if it doesn't work just remember that one of these days you will meet someone who will make you feel 10 times better then your crush you had when you were 14 i promise. I also wanted to tell you that if after you talk to him, and if you realize that it's not going to work you should try not to talk to him so much because that is holding on to the relationship and that is putting yourself through torture letting go is the fastest way to recovery so yeajh talk to him but no 3 hour daily conversations call your friends instead. I hope every thing goes well The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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