Things were Good, Then he VanishedWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I met my boyfriend via the internet by pure accident in February 2003, something i've never done before because ive always found it easy to meet people but i wanted to chat to peoople about London life because i intend to move there next year. i met this guy with whom i got on really well with and although we have met practically every month for a full week in each others company, since then it has been a bumpy ride - he is so unreliable. he doesnt call when he says he will and even didnt call me on my birthday in august. he is so nice to me when we are together but its like when i come back home "out of sight, out of mind". one week ago he left me lots of messages on my mobile phone while i was working - saying that he was missing me and that he couldnt wait to see me that weekend - that was on a friday - he arranged to meet me the following day. he then phoned Saturday to say he had money problems and that he was trying to borrow some money from a friend for the train fare - it wasnt a distant phone call or anything and he said he would call later to tell me what time he would arrive. that was a week and a half ago and i havent heard from him since. ive tried calling to ask for an explanation but i only spoke to his mum and she didnt know where he was. since then there has been no answer. i am so angry and upset that ive been dumped like this without any clues as to what has happened or any explanation. he has just totally cut me off. i have all sorts of reasons floating around in my head. what do you think happened - there was no sign - maybe he has been too much of a coward to verbally break up with me. how do i move on and create answers on his behalf. do i continue to try and contact him. im not one of those girls who would normally continue to phone when someone obviously has rejected me but i need answers because im so angry and terribly upset. how can someone treat another person like this. hope you can help me. thankyou User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Go with your feelings I think Jen is very right about this. My boyfriend seems to act just how you explain how yours was acting towards you. At one point in time I thought I was dumped from my boyfriend without any explanation since he was avoiding my calls and i didn't hear from him in a while. Yet the fact was he just didn't want to explain himself over the phone and wanted to wait til he saw me. Yeh I know that sounds screwed up but that was his way of doing things. So relax and don't try to freak out about it. If he's really worth it and your really important to him, he'll come back to you when you least expect it. My boyfriend and I at the time lived far away from each other and one day lost all contact because money was tough for him. One day out of the blue when I thought I would never hear from him again, he reentered my life after contacting me and tell me the whole situation. So see sometimes as Woman we like to jump to conclusions, and sometimes they are not always true. Go with what you feel inside because that is mostly right. Hope this helped~ The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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