I really don't want to mess this one up!!We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female ok me and my ex broke up five months ago..she started dating someone else and it seemed like it was gpin great with her and she told me that she was serious bout this relationship...then about a month later she calls me up and tells me how much she misses me and that even though things are good between her and the new person..it doesnt compare to us...so she tells me that she jus wants to talk to me and develop and better foundation of a friendhsip before we started anything..i know its short but ive been talking to her for almost a month..and its killing me because i want her back now..a big problem with us is that she didnt think that i love and accepted her for her..she has a really hard time letting people in...plus is was hard because it jus seemed as if nobody wanted us to be together..then she tells me that i always change while we are not together then i stop..but i dont feel i do..it jus that she wont completely give me her heart so she wont beleive me...how do i show her that i have changedand she means the world to me?...also what are some things that i should do while jus being her friend..she knows how i feel about her..i want to give her her space but i dont want to be to pushy...please help because i really dont want to mess this one up!!thank you User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female One day at a time I have had the same problem. I am a 29 yr old female who is disabled met a 26 yr old Male 15yrs ago, We were both in the same class in Junior High. On the first day of school another male student of the same age as my ex(whom I had a crush on) told me that someone wants to go out with me(I always got teased by the guys that are mean,the mean guys always asked me out as a joke). He showed me who it was( I had no idea my ex had a crush on me) We broke it off not long after we met because I think it was because he found out that I had a crush on the guy who introduced us. He was mean for about a year until he started high school(I was a grade higher than him). Then all of a sudden I thought he changed for the better. Sometime that year I started to get the feeling he wanted to get back together with me he rejected me twice(Once that year and another a year later). On Valentines' Day of 1996, he cheered me up after I had a bad day( I overcame Jealousy and heartbreak that day), He cheered me up by pretending he was reading a book then he lowered his book from his face then smiled at me( He melted my heart then and there). I told him how I felt about him in July of 1997,after that he was mean to me again. I found out he lied to me, made me jealous and ignored me which it hurt. The last time I saw him was Febuary of 2000. I know what you are going through because everyday I wish we can still see each other. I don't have the luxury to call him up and talk to him and make amends of this situation. So my advice to you is take it one day at a time and move on. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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