I Got Drunk and CheatedWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male I made a huge mistake while drunk and on cold medicine...now what? My girlfriend and I have been together and practically inseperable for over a year and a half. In fact, marriage is most likely soon to follow. Recently, I made a huge mistake though. I was on the opposite side of the country for a visit with family while she was out of the country. On this particular night I had taken some cold medicine, for a cold, but went out with friends and proceeded to get way more intoxicated than normal not realizing that the cold medicine had reacted with the alchohol. With out completely realizing what I was doing, I ended up in bed having sexual interactions with someone I didn't even know. The next day when I came to I was crushed, and shocked to have found out what I had done. Now, I am left waiting for her to return from a trip overseas pondering what to do. I have been told by some people that are very close to me that telling her would be unfair to her and would hurt her unneccesarily. They see it as I made a mistake but did not intentionally do this so telling her would be more for my conscience than for her good. It would relieve some of my anxiety, but it would really hurt her. I will never put myself in that position again, but her trust and the purity of our love are something that I hold so dear.... I feel like it was a bad accident, I would never do this again, and I really don't want to hurt her. What do you think? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male Don't tell Dont tell her. The price you have to pay for your indiscretion is the guilt you'll carry. If you do tell her, she will never trust you again and your marriage plans will be put on hold for a LONG time. Tell anyone who witnessed you pull the woman, or who you've confided in, that you arent going to tell her and feel very bad about it. Basically - let them know its never to be discussed again. Ever The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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