How Do I Get her Back?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male For a year and a half this girl wanted to be with me more than anything. We hung out a lot and I just kept telling her I didn't want a girlfriend. Then finally after a year and a half I gave in and went out with her. It was the best time of my life. Then the test was put to us. I had to move for a job. I told her I wouldn't be back for 2 to 5 yrs. We dated still for 15 days after I left. Then she called up one day and said we needed a break. So I went along with it. I loved her so much I did not want it but I did it to make her happy. Then a month later I decided to go home because I wanted to be with her so bad. When I got home I found out that she had been doing something with another guy and after I had been home for a few weeks she started seeing this other guy. That was about 2 months ago. I still talk to her everyday. If I don't call her she will call me. Sometimes she will go out to dinner with me or hang out with me but most of the time she just enjoys talking to me on the phone for long periods of time. She still calls me her best friend but is dating this other guy. I want to be back with her so bad. What do you suggest I do to get her back? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Find confidence Hello, I just like to say that I know how you feel, my boyfriend moved back to America (I'm in England) and we stuck together for a while but we split up because he decided to get back with his ex (the fool). We still talk all the time and I know things would be different if we were in the same place. But for now all you can do is keep in touch and if it's meant to be it'll be. I totally agree with the other guy though - don't always be there answering the phone and calling her because she'll take you for granted. Let her do a bit of the running and if she really cares for you then she'll make the effort and all will be sorted out (this is a tried and tested formula). If she doesn't then by all means be friends but don't expect anything from her. And if it doesn't work out, you seem like a genuine respectful guy and you'll find yourself another great girlfriend easily so long as you don't dwell on the past - that's always the worst you can do! I really hope things work out for you, I think the best is for you to be patient but on the other hand get on with your own life and show her you're having a great time. If she likes you, then your new found confidence would only be something to make you more attractive to her! Good luck! The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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