Getting Over a Crush on a girl 15 years youngerWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 51-60 year old Male First of all I am feeling terrible for allowing myself to get into this situation at all, but I am not really sure how it happened. I am married and have been for 11 years. I consider my marriage a good one, although I have struggled with an addiction to porn and have at times had other crushes which have not lasted. Which brings me to the current situation, as I have developed a strong crush/ feelings of love toward a coworker who is 15 years younger than me, and also married with three young children, although she is not really happy with the guy for the most part. I talk to her all the time and she is really friendly and seems to like me, but probably only as a friend. A nyway, I want to get past this, as it is hurting me inside, and of course I cannot share this type of thing with my wife, who is already insecure with herself. Nobody seems to be able to tell me what to do, and I probably won't like the advice, but I guess I need a way to get past this and live my life instead of always thinking about this girl, and I do mean almost always. Thanks very much and I will look forward to your advice. User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male Good luck I can't give you advice because I'm in exactly the same situation as you but I can tell you that you're not alone with this problem. I'm 46, and have been married for 18 years. I've developed a crush/feelings of love for a 31 year old woman. We're friends and she's just split with her partner so I've been giving her comfort and support. I work with her so I see her daily, we have similar interests and we do little art projects together for fun. She likes me as a friend but I can tell that's all it is. I need to get over this but it's really hard because she's a lovely friend. Good luck getting over your crush. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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