I don't know what to thinkWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female Hi I am writing to you again about my ex. Well we are still not dating at the moment but I am so confused I just can't stand it anymore. My ex talks to this other girl that I know and I know for a fact that they are just friends but he always tells me how they like each other and all that, and when I say well thats good and support him he will tell me that he was just trying to make ne jealous.! He is always telling me that he does things with other girls then tell me he was trying to make me mad. I mean whats the deal with that he already told me he doesn't want to ever be with me again so why put the extra effort into making me upset? I was trying to be friends with him cause he means so much to me. He calls me almost everyday, takes me out to eat at least 3 days out of the week and comes to my house all the time. He will call me to see how I am feeling and say how he misses me and says "kisses". After doing all that like 6 hours later he seems like he couldn't be bothered with me. I also haven't said the words "I Love You" to him since we broke up about 2 months ago. So what threw ne off was the other morning he sent me a text message saying Goodmorning and how he hoped I was feeling much better so I replied telling him thank you for caring. About 5 mins later he sent me another msg saying "Love you" He also hasn't said those words to me since breaking up. So I messaged him back saying that I loves him too. And the text in it he said "thanks that made me feel so much better". Like I said I care about him and would do anything for him. He is all I have been thinking about lately. But I am still stuck he says he doesnt want to be with me but then hes always taking me out and wanting me to go places with him. He still tries to be physical with me but I have been pulling back lately I told him that friends shouldn't be like that. I would really like your opinion about this situation Its very confusing from my point of view! User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Talk I think that talking things out is the only way to find out what is really going on. If, perhaps he says that he doesnt want to talk about it, then leave him alone and dont talk to him for a couple of days. eventually, SOON he will open up and share his true feelings. It sounds hard but you can do it. i had to do the same thing. LOVE!Brittany The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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