relationships involving mental illnessWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male I've lived with my girlfriend for almost two years now. I love her, and do not want to hurt her, but she suffers from a host mental issues such as OCD, social anxiety and depression, and borderline personality disorder. Basically, while we get along most of the time, we never go anywhere or have any outside social interaction. I want to have a social life, but feel guilty if I go anywhere on my own because I am basically her only link to the outside world. I'm not seeing any one else or planning on it, but I'm afraid that any attempt to get a little sspace will be viewed that way. How do I get space for myself without out hurting her, or at least minimizing the hurt? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male Leave hi i dont know what happend by now in your relationship but ive previously dated a girl for 3.5 years. she had a mental illness...schizophrinia and since 3 years she had nervous break downs twice and ended up in Mental hospital for 1 - 2 months. i felt sorry for her thats why i stayed that long...real guilty. seriously the most logical thing to do is to leave. because a person liek that is not stable. i know it sounds cruel. but if you get married, u have to know the concequences & if you have children....there is a possibility that one of your child will have this illness as she is the carrier. but it all comes down to how much you love her and if your prepared to stay with her and cop these concequences if they ever errupt. good luck The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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