Getting Over my ExWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female I recently broke up with a guy I had been going out with for a while. It was so sudden. I wasn't expecting it at all. Its as if one day he woke up and decided that he didn't want to be with me anymore. I'm having trouble getting over him. It's fine when I'm with my friends. Or if I'm doing something I enjoy. It hurts the most when I'm alone. I think of him and the things we did together and all I feel like doing is crying. I really want to get over him and get on with my life but I can't. Oh, and he still wants to be friends. How can I be friends with him when I love him? Help I want to forget him! User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female Keep busy I too am in pain over a relationship gone bad. My ex has two children, whom he adores. We were the best of friends and he asked me to marry him. We had our growing pains, I moved in with him and his children (I don't have any). Things started to get bad when his son decided to move out and live with his mother full time. My ex blamed our relationship for the "loss" of his son, which I didn't relize that was the issue until it was the end, and he didn't want to lose his daughter too. He would pull away and not include me in the "family". I was hurt, confused and sad. I saw that I was losing him. I tried to talk to him, but he didn't respond. His parting words to me "I still want to be friends." Here it is 5 months later and I'm still hurting from my relationship with him. I miss him everyday. I still dream about him and the kids every night. I am still very much in love with him. I have tried to be friends with him, but it doesn't help my feelings for him. When we get together, he talks openly about his life...just like when we were together..but now he tells me that his friends are trying to set him up. I DON'T want to know this information. If you want to get over him...keep yourself busy and your mind busy. Being friends is hard. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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