I Broke Up Instead of Fixing ThingsWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male I got a problem again....I broke up with my Gf because she's to smooth,what i ment is that she never tells that she like me or thing sweet to me...she never text me or tell me to call her,,im broken hearted..!!!actually until now i still love her like before..!Im so confused because I wana be back with her,,i cant stop thinking about her..!!I wana ask her to be back with me but if were back im scared she will be the same,, When i ask her to brake she was like, she doesnt care that i wana break with her..but after i brake with her,her friend told me that she realy care about me but she cant tell that she realy like me....!!!! now my question is,,is it okay if i ask her back??and if she say yes will she will be the like before...??? PLZ answer User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female I have a similar problem. in the beginning my bf did not show me enough attention and affection. i began to loose my love for him and startted distancing myself. but before i did this i did tell him how i felt. although he listened and made a few comments he did not do much to change .so , i met someone and began to develop some feelings for him while i was still with my boyfriend at first i felt bad because now i had two men at stake and i was unsure of what to do. the new boy knew of my bf, but my bf did not know of him. my bf thought that everything had been resolved as far as our problems, but i exploded with emotion and feelings of uncertainty about our relationshiip and of how i was falling out of love with him he responded by saying that he really loved me but needed more time to show his affection and he said that he would ttry to be a better bf. so i didn't know whether to be patient and give this another chance or to move on with the new person. there seems to be an easy solution, rignt? you're probably thinking that i should just be with the new person, but i'm not sure if my feelings for him developed because i was vulnerable and feeling angry at my bf or it they're real. I love him but not the way he loves me, and i can tell that his love for me is stronger than mine. but i have already told my bf that we could try to work things out. so now im thinking , how will the new person deal with my decision after he has tried to convince me that i needed to break up with my bf. the thing is although i told my bf that i was not in love with him any more i held on to him. at first i was thinking that i held on because i was considering his feelings but when he reached out to me and told me that he wanted to make this work and that he would try to be a better bf, i cried with joy. so i must still have some feelings for him. but now i feel bad because this new person does not know this and i don't know the outcome. life and love is truly a mystery The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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