Me and my girlfriend just broke up and I want her backWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male I am 20 years old and me and my girlfriend went out for 10 months which were the best 10 months of my life. We were perfect together and had so much fun together and told each other all the time that we loved each other so much and we wanted to be together forever. Me and my girlfriend never really got into huge fights we but argued here and there like any other couple. I did everything for her for her and cared about her so much and would always buy her gifts and I was always there for her when she needed me. Towards the end of out relationship I was stressing my girlfriend out a little and becuase I was a little insecure for some reason but now I realize all the things I did wrong and I would never do that again to her. Two weeks ago my girlfriend ask to have a break cause she needed space and was stressed out. During break we talked a little and I texted her alot and would always ask when we would get back together which probably pushed her away from me a bit. A week into break my girlfriend called me one night drunk and told me how much she loved me and was asking if I was flirting with girls and I said no. I believe the truth comes out when your drunk but the next day she regreted calling me that past night. Last sunday we made plans to hangout and we established that we be friends and build up a new friendship and gradually got back together. While we hungout I could tell she was getting weak that she missed me and she told me I looked good. But two days later my girlfriend called me up and said that she didnt want to be with me anymore and she has lost feelings for me as a boyfriend. I just dont understand how she could feel this way so fast because we loved each other and a week ago she called me drunk and told me she loved me. I asked if she could see us getting back together down the road and she said no. But I feel she is saying that so I dont think its a for sure thing. Right now I am shocked and depressed because I dont want to lose her and I eventually want to get back together with her cause I can see me being with her forever. I just find it hard to believe that she lost all her feelings for me as a partner in less than 2 weeks. Over our break we talked alot which probably wasnt a good idea and I asked her alot when we were getting back which might have pushed her away. Its only been a few days now since she ended it and I feel it is a harsh thing for her to say that she cant see me with her down the road and her losing feeling for me when she hasnt experienced being without me yet for a few weeks and not talking becuase over our break we were talking and hungout so it wasnt really a break. I wrote her a letter today saying how much I care about her and that I and thankful that she was in my life and I told her about all the great times we had together and I told her to call me when she is ready to talk or become friends or be part of my life again. I feel that if she doenst have me in her life for a few weeks starting now that she will start to miss me and come back to me since she hasnt experienced it yet. I just would like to know if you think there is a good chance that she is going to miss me and come back to me and if I dont here from her soon after the letter and all what should I do to try to gradually get her back? I just feel like I was pushing her away on break and she said that stuff to me like she didnt want to be with me anymore and go our seperate ways because she was mad and she felt she had to end it that way for now and not tell me that there was a chance we could get back down the road because she felt I would be waiting around for her. We loved each other so much and I know she still cares about me alot do you think she is going to miss me if I dont see her or talk to her for a few weeks? And do you think the letter was a good idea? Also if she doesnt call soon what steps should I take to get her back in my life? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male It's her loss Here is a guys take on it; move on and give her the break. Really try to focus on yourself and accomplishing various goals. Before you know it she will call you again drunk and she will ask how you are doing. This is when you tell her all these improvements you are making or goals you have accomplished. I promise when she hers this, it will make her sick because she does not want lose such a winner. Then in a nice way reminder her what happen last time and how much it hurt you. Tell her you will need some time to think about it. Pretty much put her in your shoes right now. I am also pretty sure you saying this is a game, but its not; its living by the golden rule. Do on to others as you would have them do on to you. Furthermore I am experiencing the same issue as you are right now. I promise you I am not contacting my ex, because its her loss. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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