How Can I Stop This Pain?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female alrite wel basically i am a 16 yr old girl, and me nd my bf broke up bout 6 weeks ago. It was a completely mutual decision, wich i totally regretted instantly. I later found out that he had cheated on me with my best fwend n neitha had tld me. I now dont speak to her at all. This hurt me more then anything, and just looking at her makes me feel physically sick. However, my ex bf is basically my best fwend. I no its rong of me to tlk to him n not her, bt i love him too much to lose him. The thing is i'v still been sleeping wit him for the past 6 weeks, because i fort it wud make him love me. i know this snds so stupid, n i no its stupid, but i honestly believe that. We had tlkd bout it n he sed he stil loves me bt doesnt want a gf coz of exams n stuff. bt we had arranged not to get wit nebody else or nethin. But last nite he went to a party n he did get with sumone. And once agen i am hurt. All he eva does is hurt me, n i dont want to love him anymre. I av tried EVRYTING to get over him, n none of it works. I cant jst blank him out of my life bcoz i av to c him evryday at skl. I want to be able to be his best fwend, coz i need him to be my best fwend, bt i dnt want to love him. Iv tried tlkin to him n he jst gets angry. I c him tlkin to anova girl n i feel sick. I constantly cry n tink im gna puke, n now my mates r mad at me for not tlkin to the girl he cheated on me wit. i dnt no wat to do. im at my wits end. u av to help me plz User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male Dump him First off, this guy cheated on you, as a guy I can honestly tell you if your man cheats on you once, he will do it again. You said you were sleeping with him for the past six weeks, the only thing I can say to that is it's a horrible idea. This guy is a playa, he was with you and messed around with someone else, then he comes back to you and messes around with you, my prediction to this story is he's going to find another girl and mess around with her. He sounds like a complete loser, who's just trying to get as much tail as possible. Leave this idiot, and find someone who actually cares for you. Because this tool obviously doesn't. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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