Should I tell her and expect the consequences?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male A couple of months ago I met the most wonderful girl in the world,a nd I have fallen in love with her. We both want to spend the rest of our lives together. She cheated on me twice both within a few days of eachother, and before we talked of love and marriage. It took her a while to tell me and I was really upset. The problem is, is that I cheated on her also. A girl came on to me and I didn't stop her. It has never happened again and never will, but I don't know if I can tell her. I love her so much now that when girls come on to me I get disgusted by there actions. Is it okay to keep this from her if it never ahppens again, and how can I brush it off, or should I tell her and expect the consequences? User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Don't tell Noe I hope you didn't tell her!!! think about why it is you want her to know is it because you want to give HER a fair chance, or is it, honestly, just to get it off YOUR concience? cus all telling her is going to do is make her feel like its happeneing right now, not like it happened five months ago (or whenever) which means its gonna hurt that much. If you wanted to be a "good guy" and morally correct you should've told her when you did it, or when she told you. Now it's about getting it off your mind and letting her bear the burden (of what YOU did) do you see how selfish that is? Keep it to yourself. Let it eat at your concience- you know you desererve it. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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