Why don't I get the girls?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male I just can't seem to understand women sometimes. I find it gallingly hard to get a gal to even notice me beyond 'friend' material. I'm nice to any girl i meet, even if i don't particulaly fancy her. Im polite, i NEVER cuss or at least in front of a lady, i love engrossing conversations and I like to think tht i have a good ammount of social etiquette. I work out often to keep fit and NO, I DON'T have a 'confidence' problem, I do stand up comedy at a local diner on a regular basis. But yet somehow, all the girls want is tht hunk across the hall with those big pecs and biceps, who calls all his girlfriends and ex's his "bitches" with a seemingly 'bad boy' attitude. I hold open doors for them and what do I get, nothing, not even a thank you. I compliment them even if I know they're fishing for it, yet no one even looks past me more then once. I drive them back home from a party after they get wasted and i never try or even think of taking advantage of them, but all they see is that hunk with the leather jacket. I asked a few girls out once, all said they would call but none ever did. I try my best to excel in everything i do from studies to daily things yet they all seem meaningless. Are nice guys doomed to finnish last?? Maybe I should be more like the jerks, I know it's shallow thinking but I feel sometimes like a ghost. User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Nice guy In my personal experience, truly nice men are the ones who don't go asking why they don't get girls since they're such nice guys. Men who say they are nice guys, aren't. And men who are nice guys, show it in their deeds and words. A girl would not be, I hope, the only reason you're courteous. You know why the "hunk" does his "bad boy" attitude? Because it gets him attention. If it didn't work, he'd try something else. If it is, how sad. If it isn't, well, do you want to be an actor like that, too? The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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