He Hit me, what do I do?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I've been with my bf for over a year now, he has a mental Illness, that he doesnt try to take care of, He gets on meds, then stops them, He Hit me the other night, busted my Nose and split my Lip, I LOVE HIM and I know he has a Mental Illness, but He uses that as an excuse for all the Verbal abuse,(that hurts as worse as the busted nose did) but now he's hit me, swears he wont do it again, but can I really rely on that? It hurts, I love him so much, But Ive heard so Many people say, HE wont do it again,.. I Never thought he would Do it the first time, he suffers from bi polar manic depression, with parainoid dellusins, with a touch of pscycophrania... and Says he doesnt need his meds , What Do I Do? If he loved me he'd do anything possible to be better? am I turning my back on him? Ive tried for almost 2yrs... still the same HELP! thanks alot User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female What's right for you? You really have to do what is in YOUR best interest. I was in a relationship for 4 years or so. The first year was sweet blish I fell in love for the first time, and had my first really real boyfriend for longer than a couple weeks or months. I thought we were destined to be together forever. I fought so hard for it and finally realized that I wasn't fighting for it to work for me, I was doing it for him. I did love him. But, once the verbal abuse started getting worse and other abuse started I wasn't sure if he loved me like he so declared. He definetly loved his car. Finally, the day came that he hit me - when he was drunk... this is no excuse. It took me a couple weeks to sort it out in my head and finally realize... I have to do what is right for me. I didn't want to be hurt any more and I didn't want to get hit again. I wanted the verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse to stop too. And, the only way to do that is to say your goodbyes. He too was slightly on the depressed side and A.D.D he used this as his excuse for everything. But, you have to decide when enough is simply enough. Personally - it wouldn't be worth it to stay. I have found a super nice guy who doesn't even raise his voice, never says a mean word, and I am so comfortable with him that he is more or less my best friend. I will warn you, that if you do decide to break up that you will find guys who still won't treat you right - it is up to you to not be involved with those ones! Heck, I broke it off with the next guy I dated because he yelled at his mom. If he can't treat his mom with respect how can he treat any other woman with respect?! plus he was whinny as all..... anyways, best of luck to you and hopefully you have friends and family to help you out. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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