My Girlfriend is Avoiding MeWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male WELL MY GF AND I HAVE NOT SPOKEN IN ABOUT A MONTH AND I HAVE TRIED TO CALL HER MANY TIMES AND I CANT GET AHOLD OF HER IT SEEMS LIKE SHE WANTS OUT BUT I DONT UNDERSTAND Y YEAH WE GOT INTO A FIGHT 3WKS BEFORE I CAME HOME FORM COLLEGE AND WE HAD BEEN DATING FOR 4 MONTHS THEN AND THE WHEN I GOT HOME FOR OUR 5 MONTH ANNIVERSY WE DIDNT EVEN SPEND IT TOGETHER AND I ONLY TALKED TO HER FOR 2 MIN I MEAN I DONT GET IT I THINK ABOUT HER ALL THE TIME BUT SHE WILL NOT CALL ME BACK AND THE ONE TIME SHE DID I DIDNT HEAR MY PHONE AND SHE LEFT A MESSAGE SAYING HOW SHE DIDNT LIKE HOW SOME THINGS WERE GOING AND SHE SHOULDNT HAVE TOOK HER FRUSTRATIONS OUT ON ME AND SHE WAS THINKING OF ME AND SHE HAD ALOT OF ANSWERING TO DO AND HOW SHE WOULD CALL ME BACK BUT SHE STILL HASNT I MEAN I CALL LEAVE MESSAGES SEND HER MESSAGES AND NADA I DONT KNOW SHOULD I JUST ASSUME THAT WE ARE BROKEN UP OR WHAT I CANT WAIT FOREVER BUT I DONT WANNA LOOSE HER BUT I FEEL LIKE IM JUST BEING PLAYED THE FOOL HERE AND I DONT KNOW WHAT SHE IS THINKING OR WHAT I AM GOING TO DO PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR ADVICE ON WHA I SHOULD DO SHOULD I LEAVE OR STAY User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male Hey dude, I hear you man. I was dating a girl for about 4 months and everything went great the first few months, I really liked this girl and she gave me the signals that she really was into me, the 4th month she grew colder and didn't tell me what was on her mind even when I confronted her. We had a long distance relationship, she lived two hours, so most of our contact was by phone or instant messaging which I hated. Her affection towards me grew less and less and I didn't understand why, because she couldn't tell me what was on her mind and I did lay my feelings on the line one day in one big email and this scared her off, well too bad for her. It's something you have to do, to find out if she's mature enough and enough of a woman to do so. Well she called me up after the letter and said to me that i'm too far away to spend time with me, this is how non confrontational she was, and I just laughed and said to myself that she's not worth having a relationsip with if she can't tell me what's on her mind. To make a painful story short, anyway tell her to stop playing games, your a man with feelings and you deserve to know what's going on, call her up or send her an email stating you guys need to talk. You sound like a communicator and you like to set things straight. Don't call her any more and make yourself look to clingy or needy, maybe she needs her space, I know it's freakin agonizing when you want to know what's going on in her head, but just give her a hint that you need to talk and then wait for her phone call, believe me because I got hurt when she played this game and I kind of blew it by getting upset at her, when all she needed was her space. I know it sucks but she's not worth it if she's not willing to have a serious talk and she keeps play games like a little girl, this chick I dated was 33, can you belive it? Anyway good luck and I'm curious how it goes... The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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