Cheated, confessed and still cheat??!!We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female I have read alot but still haven't found anything like my situation. To make a long story short i cheated on my husband. We have been together for about 6-7 years and have been married for a little over 2 yrs. Because of our jobs we are currently a few hours away from each other and can not live together. I cheated on my husband, told him about it, and then told him that i think we got married way to young and that we should get more experience. (we have never been in a serious relationship with anyone else besides each other) We are both 20 yrs old. As we talked about it and both cried i felt like crap and hated myself so we decided to work things out. I told the "other guy" that we couldnt see each other anymore and he said that he understood and that he would give me my space. The problem, is that i am lying to my husband while i am still seeing the other guy (i went back). I havent had sex again with this other guy BUT we talk about our strong feelings for each other and still hang out and talk. I keep going back and forth between the both..i feel stuck because i want them both and i cant have them both. I keep dragging them both along with my confusion and my bad decisions. I dont know what to do and no matter what i am hurting someone and myself at the same time. I dont know what to do to choose...i feel stuck and confused....and hate myself at the same time. What should i do? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female care for husbands I have been there before. I was so confused one moment i thought i wanted one thing the next minute something else. It is obvious that there are problems or lack of commitment between you and your husband. but you have commited to him! you have said vows and promises! so you need to stand up to those! ditch number 2 man. oh and read the proper care and feeding of husbands by dr laura, it helped me realise what i was doing right and wrong in my marriage and now we are doing great. I hope the best for you!!! The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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