Getting my Husband BackWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female My husband has just broken up with me after a year and a half of marriage, we hae been together nearly six years. He said that he des not love me anymore, but that nothing is wrong in fact that everthing was perfect. He said he would do anything to feel the love that we had for each other again. He says that he could not lie to me and feels that he does not love me anymore, but is ashamed of himself for hurting me so much because he cares for me. I really love him and feel that we were made for each other, he feels this as well. We are both finding it very hard to understand why this has happened. He has said that he does not know how something so hard and that feels so wrong can be right, but he thinks it is. We are both remaining friends and we are getting on ok it is uncomfortable and i have noticed him looking at me in the way he used too. anyway i just want some advice about getting him back. I am moving back to where i came from, which is a couple of hundred miles away and we will talk on the phone all of the time, but i really want him back. Thank you for your help. User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male dose of reality I had the same thing happen to me but it was my wife of 7yrs. She just said that she was not happy as she was before. That she loved and cared about me but could not be married to me. I gave her everything she wanted in her life. Adopted her child had 2 more with her and put my life on hold so that she could go on with her dream of being a officer in the Coast Guard. Now she is all by herself raising our 3 children and says she feels so much better and happy, I am miserable and depressed and pine for her on the phone. I dont have any advise that will help Iam in the same boat. I tried for 7months now to get her to see that we had a great life. She cant see it. she thinks love should be all butterflies till the grave. Some people have a skued view of what love and marriage is. They just have to fall on there face and you can not due a thing in the world to help them not. I hope my ex falls into the reality that love and marrage is not like the moves or a romance book. These ideas have messed up alot of relatioships and I blame the high devorce rate on the media that gives people the Cosby Brady marriage and not the All in the Family , Mamas Family dose of reality. Some people just live in TV Land and that is sad. Later on in life they will see that it is all smoke and mirrors by then you and I will have moved on and found someone grounded in reality. John The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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