The Head-MesserWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male Sorry this might be a bit of a long one. Basically I went out with this girl for about 6 months, she is absolutely stunning, everyone at my college likes her. We had quite an up and down relationship when we were together but i always had very strong feelings for her. We shared some great times but some also very upsetting times for me. We broke up and she was seeing someone else for a little bit, out of anger from this i told her of how i cheated on her. She was very upset but i think this made her realise she wanted me back. One day she told me she still liked me and we began talking again. This made me over the moon and despite her family and friends telling her she is stupid her feeling were still strong. One minute she will tell me on the phone about how she likes me and bring back memories, the next minute she just acts different not really saying she likes me and being less caring. I see her often and sometimes we get times together. We both just wanted to kiss eachother and stuff, you could just feel each other wanting to and a lot of the time it feels like were still together. She tells a lot of my and her friends that she is still well into me. It seems sometimes she likes to make me jealous though, she will mention other boys and situations which she knows will annoy me. At one party she spent loads of time with my best mate, they didn't kiss or anything like that but the next day he had a picture on his phone of him joking around touching her up. I sorted this with him but felt on her behalf in was well out of line. This talking to each other and knowing each other still has feelings for eachother for about 4 months. Recently i said to her, 'i feel so strong for you and i miss you,i want you back'. Her reply was i need to think about things, but that was two weeks ago and she hasn't said anything about it since. We talk everyday she said to me, it feels like we are both drifting from each other and i do like you but its just different from how it was when we were together. The girl is one of these girls whose main aim in life is to look good and be the centre of everything with everyone looknig at her. It is really hurting me now and i just need to know what to do, i do really want her back but what can i do? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male Stop being angry Look, all i can say is that...damn. thats really messed up cause it hurts so bad. Trust me, i know that feeling. but i think,..now this is just me, i think you saying that you cheated on her out of spite was really out of line. Understand one thing about women..they ALL love attention. they are attention seekers, well some of us men are like that also but relize that if she is going to be with you then she is going to be with you. if not, then not. stay a close friend if possible, and hopefully you and her will work things out. stop being angry! The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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