We crossed the line and realized we love each otherWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female I'm unhappily married and in the process of divorce. I've been cheating with a married man for over 2 years (he has been married for 17years). I have realized that my marriage will not change and continues to be unhappy, verbally abusive at times physically abusive the last 5 years and on and off of the total 11 years of marriage. I have a small child and feel this is the right move for everyone involved. The marriaed man I currently see also feels his marriage cannot be salvaged but stays because his daughter has only two years left of high school. He also believes that staying provides more stability for his daughter and it's the only reason he stays. We started as friends waiting over six months before anything happened deciding on friends with benefits. Before either of us knew it we crossed the line and realize we love each other. Neither of us want to admit it because we feel it cannot be, we are married. I have tried to stop but some how we still continue. It doesn't help we have a mutual friend which knows we are seeing each other. Our friend doesn't endorse it but feels we are soulmates. Do I completely forget about this man or continue for two years and see where fate takes us? Troubled User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Waste of time OH MY GOD!!! common sense fortune cookie says: DIVORCE. Im telling you right now that I was recently a high school student and went through much worse than my parents divorcing by the time i graduated MIDDLE SCHOOL. That is a sack of shit reason to avoid divorce, if anything his daughter would learn the values of honesty and aiting to marry the right person. YOU need to divorce this a$$hole you are with woman, respect yourself more!!!! Respect your child more! your child is the one i'd be concerned with! It's a risk worth taking, divorce costs BIG money sorry to say but that's because sometimes it's worth it. For your "soulmate", the money may not be worth it, but the fact that he's living two lies at once is sooo worth it. I am in love with my ex whom still talks to me as if we are together almost 2 years into their marriage, i have managed to somehow avoid sexualities between us because it's wrong and disrespectful to everyone involved AND dishonest in the least. He should not be married. he was engaged to me then cheated with her to marry her, and now lives his life as a martyr. I thought he would be different for her and i became jealous until he put me in her place and her in mine. he hasn't changed. IT's bullshit to continue in such a way. I know he'd be happier with me as i would be with him, we have admitted we are soulmates, and beyond, but he's not taking the actions he should be. The point is, personally; without respect, trust, and TRUTH, it will inevitably be a waste of time until something solid does happen. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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