She Wants to Be a PrincessWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male I had a heated discussion with my girlfriend the other day, and subsequently our relationship seems to now be off the rails. The discussion was over the way that I treat her; I thought I was a romantic guy, chivalrous, but do believe in equal rights and equal opportunities. I plan romantic outings, give her flowers, open doors, I’m trustworthy and believe that women are entitled to every opportunity that a man is. Where the problem lies is that she says I don't “treat her like a princess”; in that I don't buy her expensive jewelry, take her on vacations to luxurious resorts, or out to the expensive restaurants. I do buy her things, take her on trips, and out to restaurants. I’m not poor, not rich, but comfortable; I’m frugal with my money but not cheap and don’t spend beyond my lifestyle. I feel that treating a girl like a princess means that she should treat me like a prince or better yet a king; meaning it’s a two way street. If I take her somewhere expensive, then she can take me somewhere expensive. My big problem is that she feels that she shouldn’t have to do anything more to deserve this. To me the “treat me like a princess” scenario is disgusting! As we’ve learned from history, a princess is nothing more than a figurehead. Raised with class and etiquette, she serves as an ambassador to the monarch. Not to mention, a Princess’s Prince always has a few mistresses; case and point Prince Charles and Princess Diana. She wants more without giving any more. When I give advice to my friends, I compare their relationship to a Bank; let the withdrawals equal the amount of the deposits. It’s a two way street! Am I out of line? Should I cut my losses and move on?!?!? I love her, but I don’t feel appreciated. What do you think? User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female I agree with the romanceclass. Your girlfriend is spoiled rotten to the core.She sounds like she is very immature and not likely going to change.Women that are like that are NEVER going to be happy because they are always going to want more regardless of how much they have or are giving.Relationships are amteer of giving and taking.But you are doing ALL the giving and she is doing the ALL the taking.You sound like a very sweet guy and any woman would be lucky to have you.You need to find yourself a WOMAN who loves and appreciates you and not a spoiled little girl!! The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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