I'm Trying Not to Be JealousWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I want to not be jealous anymore. My boyfriend never gives me any reason to be jealous or to fear that he will cheat on me. He tells me that I'm all that he looks for and wants, and he tells me I'm beautiful but I still am jealous of other girls. They can be strangers, girls that aren't even his friends, but friends of his friends that are hanging out around him, or my own friends, I will become very jealous. This is breaking up our relationship...my jealousy and complaining over everything I see that bothers me is the reason why we're on a break right now. I know I shouldn't be jealous--I can't back up my jealousy with anything that he has done. Part of me feels that my jealousy is due to my past boyfriend. I was with him for a year and a half and in the beginning, I never once thought that he'd cheat on me. I never had a problem with him going out, I'd never worry. He had told me how much I meant to him and I believed it. But 3 months into our relationship, he cheated on me, and things went downhill..I broke up with him and I had found out from him that he had recently cheated on me again. Fears of the past becoming the present cloud my mind. I trust my boyfriend, but I still get jealous. I got jealous over him letting a girlfriend of mine borrow something that he didn't let me borrow. I don't know what to do. How Do I stop being so jealous when there really isn't any reason for me to be jealous??? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Jealous I feel ya. It sucks big time. I'm jealous of myboyfriends friends that he hangs out with a lot. It doesn't help that we live 3 hours away and only see eachother every two weeks or so. I don't know if this is reason to be jealous or not, but 9 months into our relationship he let some chick kiss all over him and stuff. He apologized for it and i forgave him. He kind of had feelings for this girl. THen, we broke up and the very same day we broke up, a few hours after actually, he went and boned this same chick. We're back together now but I am SO SCARED that he will go and get feelings for another girl again. I hate being jealous. SO much. But nothing I read seems to help. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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