I love my wife, but I'm attracted to other womenWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male First let me state I am love and care for my wife more than any other person in the world. She was and still is not my ideal picture of beauty, but we connect on an emotional and spiritual level like no one else I've ever known. She seems to know me better than my own family. She knows more about me than any other person on this planet. She can read me like a book. I am truely madly deeply in love with her. If I knew sacrificing anything including my own life would mean she would be happy for the rest of hers I would glady do it. My problem is I'm not physically attracted to her. In the bedroom, I'm always picture someone else in my mind when I'm with her. I see a woman I find sexy walk by an I finding my self wanting the other woman. I could care less what that other woman's intrests or care are all I'm looking for is physical gratificatiion. I've have cheated on my wife one time. It was with someone she never knew. Physically it was great, but emotionally it felt empty. I admitted it to her which was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I didn't and don't want to hurt her and I was so scared I would lose the one thing I cared about most. We talked about I told her if I felt I needed to do that again I would leave. Yet, I still find myself self looking at the cute waitress or the cute girl down at the bar, etc.. I feel completely lost. I haven't cheated on her since, but I still miss the physical satisfaction. I just don't want to keep hurting my wife. User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Sad wife I'm sorry but that is just evil. My husband and I have been together for 6 years and he says exact the same thing about me as you are about your wife. I'm beatuiful, kind. smart etc. According to him I'm his soulmate. However he doesn't find me attractive. Do not understand why. I have a body like Halle Berry. I traine 4 times a week. I have two collage degrees honestly I'm a perfect wife.(He says that as well) But in the lost 4 years we have been having sex 4-5 times per year. But I never confronted him about this thinking our relationship is so much more than sex. But enough is enough. I came to my senses. I deserve so much more than this. I have friends and do not need one to live with. A wanna husband that finds me as attractive as I find him even though his physical appearance is not what it used to be. He's gone fat. He startade to trainee and is looking much better but he is still fat. But I don't care I want him as bad as I wanted him when we first met. We are now seperated. Read this, I'm still an idiot. But they say, hope never dies. I said to him to rethink why he is not attracted to me and try to figure out if he can change that. If he can I would love to start over, if he can't change than we go our seperate ways. So here I'm crying my self every night hoping we can fix this but deep inside I know we can't. And the sad part is a let him torture me by letting him deside our faith instead of me, after everything he has done to me (do not wanna go into detailes). He did not hurt me physcly but I'm scared emotionally. This is slowly killing me, the uncertainness. But I'm still to weak to take the matter in my own hands. Please do not do this to your wife. I can bet she feels the same way as I do. Let her find a man she deserves and who will find her as attractive as she finds him. If you truly love her let her be happy, because I'm most certain that she is not now. A sad wife The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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