Am I making Progress with Ex-girlfriend?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male Hi, I am a 34 year old male trying to reconnect with my ex-girlfriend that I dated for 3 years. Our relationship has been over for a few months and I really want to try to get her interested in "us" again. I really messed things up in the relationship and I would like to earn back her trust. In short, she wanted more than I had to give. Her issues with me were religion, marriage and kids. Our relationship was great until we spoke of those three topics. After that our realtionship went downhill. I was very stubborn not wanting to go to church with her and told her I would never get married. Now that I no longer have her as a companion/friend I truly miss her presence and love for life. I have hand-written her a letter and sent it to her home. The letter contained my regrets of not helping to cultivate the relationship and putting up boundries. Also I had submitted the mistakes I had made and ways in which I could have been a better friend without making excuses. Also, I have attended the church that she loves dearly and I have enrolled into a program that better helps me make a coonection with God. She is thrilled that I am seeking this connection to god and we talk about the sermons that were discussed in church. I attend the first session of church and she attends the follwing one. This past Sunday she had called me immediately after church to see if attended and then called me later that evening to discuss the sermon. We havent seen eachother in weeks and no attempts have been made on her behalf to see me. I'm afraid to ask her to see me and I dont want to pressure her on reconnecting with me. I am looking for signs that tell me that she is done trying or that she is willing to see if I am changing for the better. I fully understand that I must be patient. But my question is. How do I know if its heading into a postitive direction or into a platonic friendship? User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male Keep the Faith I guess, My question to you is: are you serious about the religion classes you're taking? I would hope so. Attendance doesn't mean that you're heart is in the right place. In my mind, your lost love has always been interested in you and still is, or she wouldn't be calling you to discuss your reactions to the sermons being preached. She's observing you, looking for authentic changes in you as a person, which--to me--is a mature and pretty wise thing for her to do. My advise to you is to continue on your path in knowing God and when the Master's work is completed, you'll won't be surprised at who's waiting to celebrate with you.... The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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