My girlfriend is an alcoholicWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male I met this really nice girl through a friend and we've been seeing each other for four months now. I usually like to take things slow, but because of our chemistry, things moved very fast. I learned early on that she has a drinking problem but is looking to stop. As a precaution, I prepared myself and told myself that I would leave if she ever chose alcohol over me. The first time she chose alcohol, I walked away and just about stopped talking to her. We only stayed together because she literally begged me and began detoxing. Things seemed to get better but she slipped up again and had a few drinks. Even though I have strong feelings for her and she has the same, do I get back together with her? I'm in the middle and don't know if this is something that will go away. As of this writing, we are not together and she is supposedly at a live in rehab. But she still calls asking for forgiveness and looking for another chance. User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male Bitter I am in the same situation as you, except for me it has been three years. I have told her I will not be with her when she drinks and she immediately quit drinking. For a month. Now we are back to square one. I want to break up with her but I keep making excuses. When she drinks her entire personality changes and she basically turns into a mean person. I know I don't deserve to be treated this way and I should dump her. My advice to you, break up before it is too late and you get sucked in and totally lose yourself. If she detoxes and stays sober for at least 6 months then MAYBE you can talk to her again. I am bitter though, so you may not want to listen to me. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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