I'm sleeping with my ex-boyfriend, and I just got engaged.We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female About a year ago, I started dating my current boyfriend. After about 6 months, I was more than certain that I had found "the one." Well, that is approximately the time that my ex-boyfriend and I stumbled (literally stumbled) into each other at a bar. This was not just any old ex boyfriend, but this was my first "the one", my former Mr. Right, if you will. We'd dated for a few years but there always seemed to be something getting in the way of our relationship so we eventually and inevitably broke up. Anyway, I digress. Back at the bar, we spent a few hours and a few pitchers getting reacquainted, then back at his place, we spent a few more hours get "reacquainted" (if you smell what I'm stepping in...). Over the next few weeks, we'd "accidentally" run into each other a few times every week at the bar, then again, "catch up on old times" back at his place. More and more, we started to meet secretly, and we have been for the last six months. It's great, and he accepts the challenges of working around my other relationship, as do I for him. However, a few weeks ago, my actual boyfriend proposed. And I (obviously) have never been much good at saying no to anyone for anything, so I said yes. Now that I have this ring on my finger, I feel as though my fiance may as well have made it handcuffs for that i how it emotionally binds me. I have to take it off whenever my ex and I make love. Another added problem is that the few times that I actually spend the time with my ex talking, all we talk about is how we long to be with only each other. I'm getting married in 3 months and really need some guidance on how I can continue my double life without losing the security I get from one, and passion I feel for the other. User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Your Ex sounds like you want to be with your ex but you dont want to hurt your current man...thats how i see it...you know what they say "if you love aomething let it ago if it comes back thats how you know....." well dont deny it..you love ya ex so be with him.. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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