Once a cheater, always a cheater.We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female When I was in my early teens, just beginning to notice guys, I swore to myself I'd NEVER EVER cheat. NEVER. I knew, and still know, it's the worst thing you can do in a relationship. I have cheated. On the last 3 boyfriends I've had. It's been with the same guy, and I usually break up with my boyfriend for him at some point. But we never last, because of arguements and fighting. I've been dating a guy for 8 months now, I'm so in love with him it's unbelievable. And just when I thought I was so over my affair, I cheated again. With the same guy, again. Now I'm stuck. I have more fun with my friend than I do with my boyfriend. I feel like I'm in love with both of them though, is that possible? I know I can't keep going on like this. My boyfriend has to know the truth, and I can't keep leading my friend on. I just don't know how to choose between them, how to let someone down, and how to NOT be considered a total SLUTFACE. User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Come clean Honestly I believe when it comes to love its more of a chemistry between two people, or more depending on your preferences. You need to be honest as no matter how long you stay with your boyfriend it will forever eat away at you, coming clean is the hardest thing you will have to do and once you have passed that hurdle so to speak you can then work on where you go from there. You need to give him the chance to decide what he wants as too often people forget in a relationship they shouldnt just think of themselves but of the other who has entered into it. I hope you can work things out and it's not once a cheater always a cheater you just havent found the 'one' who keeps you on your toes, as sadly it doesnt sound like the other one could keep up with you :D not that its a bad thing, I myself was once a cheater and luckily I found my one before i could do too much damage. Good Luck The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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