I have cheated and feel like crapWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I have always been a commited person in a relationship, especially the current one I am in. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 yrs. now. I love him with all my heart, but I feel into temptation after taking a new job. I started messing around with a man that could have been my father (eww, I know but he was handsome). He showed me a good time taking me out to lunch everyday, and giving me that certain, love I was wanting from my boyfriend. Anyways, To make I long story short, My boyfriend found out eventually and keeps bring it up. I don't really know what to do to let him know I feel awful about what I had did. I promised him I would changed AND HAVE! He still brings it up and it has been a year after I have did this terrible deed! I want his heartbreak to end so we can have that wonderful relationship we had before. User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Put foot down When I was very first dating my now fiance (this is before we officially became bf and gf I'm talking about) I was still casually dating another guy, which I was completely open about from the start. As things started getting more serious with the one, I stopped seeing the other, but for a long time whenever we got into a fight he'd bring up how I "had hurt him and broke his heart" because he was starting to fall for me before I fell for him and he'd say "it felt like you cheated on me even though we weren't official" I apologized many times that I had hurt him unintentionally, and I asked him to please stop bringing it up, and still it continued for awhile until one day during a huge blowup I put my foot down and told him what I think you should tell your boyfriend (or at least something similar): "If I told you once, I told you a dozen times that I'm sorry, it's true, I am, but I'm a human being not a perfect creature, I made my mistake, have done my very best to make it up to you and repair the damage, but I refuse to let you punish me for it forever, and honestly if I really hurt you that much that you can't let this issue go then maybe it's better if we break up. But I love and I'd rather not have this come down to that, but you have to work with me, you have to realize how much it breaks my heart to have to keep being punished" I hope you guys can fix everything, take care. -Dawn The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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