I fell in love with my mistressWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male I've been with my fiance for a year now, and have been cheating on her for about 6 months. I now find myself torn between the woman i'm supposed to marry and my lover. My lover is exciting, fun, and outgoing, and not to mention a beast in bed. On the other hand my fiance is fun, stable, and a home body. It's come to the point that I am thinking about about leaving my fiance and moving in with my lover, any advice on whether I should do this? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female You are not that man It's quite simple...which woman could you not stand to see with someone else? That's who you truely love. It's never about the sex or even stability. Sadly we are more likely to be happy with an unstable person and content to help them become stable than with a stable person who bores us to death. The fact that you not only cheated but found your self in love with someone else before you even married your fiance speaks volumes. She might be a great catch for someone else, but you'd cheat on her again. She is not going to be the woman who holds your interest and meets your needs. And thats ok. Set her free she will hurt but she will heal. And one day you will be both grateful for your decision. Use a little foresight here. Wisdom is seeing what is to come and acting on it before it happens. The right decision is usually the hardest. You'd always wonder what Ms. Beast in the bed was up to. (If not you'd always be attracted to women like her) That said you're probably not mature enough for marriage as of yet. You have the rest of your life to dedicate your faithfulness to one person. Enjoy your life. As a divorcee, one of the most profound thoughts I've ever had came shortly after I found myself in an affair...why do we as a society place so much emphasis on the fidelity of our vows but forget the love, honor and cherish. You do not cherish your fiance now you will not cherish her later. And thats not a bad thing it's just a thing. Set her free to find a man who will hopefully love her and her only. As of right now you are not that man. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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