Fight too muchWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male Hi, ive been with my ex for about 2 1/2 years before we broke up.. which was in june 04. to make a long story short, i broke up with her because we fought too much.. but regret it. when i told her i was sorry for the things that were said and for another chance to "make it right" again, she said no. a few weeks later shes with someone new. fine. she has a new bf, its summer time, shes livin life. but, around the first week of september, she IMed me on aol, saying how she wanted to be friends with me and how she was sorry.. i made it clear to her that i couldent "be friends" with someone i love. anyway, she got the message.. then a week later, she shows up at my job (total shock).. so.. i went on my break, and talked to her.. she then started crying telling me how she felt and all.. to make another long story short, i went home with her after work and she ultimately cheated on her boyfriend of 3 months (big time) with me, her ex of 2 1/2 years.. we then became close, and started to see each other more often, and eventually she broke up with her bf for another chance with me.. about 2 days into our "fresh new start" we just wouldent stop fighting and she just left me.... now, its november, and she IMs me again on aol.. basically the same thing all over again.. to make another long story short, we started talking on the fone now (every other day) and a week after confessing her feelings about me, she tells me on the fone that its better that i move on.. and blah blah.. (what the hell?).. now i know for a fact this girl is confused.. but.. she also made plans to see me "for a little" on a sunday this month.... hmm.. i have no idea what to expect.. and i dont know what to do or say.. and i dont understand why she would wanna see me after telling me that i should move on, forget about her, and how it would be better that way?.. all i know is that i love this girl with all my heart.. shes the true love of my life.. shes my world.. everything that matters to me.. and that i would give anything to have another chance with her.. but i dont know what to do.. how to get her back.. i need some advice.. what should i do with her when i see her?.. why is she saying all this nonsense but still really wants to see me? how do i win her back?? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male I was just browsing around this trying to figure out some ideas to get my ex and keep her. Our situation is the same but the opposite...funny to say that I am the girl in the above story and she is the guy. I sometimes think it would be better to let her go and live a happy life without the fighting, and I let her go for 2 weeks and start missing her like crazy. We basically grew up and were best friends before our relationship. We knew everything about each other that nobody else knows. In my view, I'm not confused even though I may seem it. I want her to be happy, I want her to be with me, but it takes 2 to not fight. Now, I am putting in my all to make it work, and I am hoping the same from her. I begged her for another chance while her tellin me her heart belongs to someone else now, and so far I think it MIGHT be working. We use to say the worst things to each other and then just quite talking, but I see that some people just live in a love/hate relationship and somehow are happy with it. Maybe this is the case, because we lived it a while and I think it's time for quits, so it's now or never between us to make this work...I don't know if this is helpful for you, I am a 23 y/o male dealing with a 21 y/o woman The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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