i screwed up and she likes another guyWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male ok so i had a girlfriend for almost 8 month's and it seemed like we were destined to be together forever, my step dad has known her dad for almost 30 years, we have many other times when we or other's related have a connection of some sort. so anyway. everything way fine for the first 6 months, we always hung out and i went to the beach with them and camping and i stayed at their house for a month when my rents left for awhile... but just in the last month's thing's changed, she was always upset and she cried allot, then she told me she wanted to take a break. i asked her why and she told me just because so i said ok... then a week later she starts school again and she tells me she doesnt want to go back because she is afraid she will end up liking someone else. so 2 weeks in and she is telling me she loves me with all her heart but she wants to be single, i asked her why and she said she just wanted to live her life and we were to serious, i asked her what she meant and she said that she just couldnt take it. so after much prying and much investigating i asked her what was the reason, i found you! she said it was because it was to physical, she couldnt take the constant cuddling and kissing and all of the sexual stuff either, she said she wanted someone who would be less physical and serious so i told her i could change and she gave me a task that made no sense, i asked her for a second chance and she wont give it and i have just made her more mad and sad and she also likes another guy, i need to know what to do i am ready to die because i am so lonely. she was the only girl who ever actually loved me back and i miss her so much. if there is anything you can do to help me please let me know, i am only making the situation worse i cant eat the food just does not go down and i cant sleep. i am always lonely and i cry all the time User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male Get out and find her Honestly man, women are weird. Theres no point in sitting around and sulking over her. I know its hard because you feel like for a long time in your life she was very important, but I have to tell you (it sounds harsh) but theres no way you guys were in love. When you love someone and they love you back, nothing in the world could keep you two apart. You feel so upset now because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else. Well I have to tell you, you won't if you spend all your time feeling sorry. So heres my advice. Get dressed up this weekend and hit the social scene with your friends, talk to other girls, have a great time because you're still young. Women have a tendency of jumping around when they think they've found something better. Nintey percent of the time they realize they made a mistake, but remember if that happens the ball is in your court. Don't ever let someone make you feel inferior, its unhealthy and completely unproductive. I guarentee if your ex happens to see you one day with another girl, and you look happy, she'll want nothing more then to come back. The funny thing is, chances are by that time you'll already be over her, now there is nothing more satisfying then that. Theres 6 billion people on this planet man. You only need one, get out there and find her. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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