I'm Cheating - What Should I Do?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male I uprooted my girlfriend from her friends and family and moved her here to florida with me, because I loved her. Now I find that I have fallen in love with someone else here in florida. My girlfriend is getting supicious of my behavior. I don't have the heart to tell her. But I am deeply in love with this other woman. I want to break it off with my girlfriend to see if this woman is the one for me but I am afraid it would mess things up for me and my girlfriend in the long run what do I do . I never expected for this to happen. We have been dating for 3 years. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Now I am not so sure. I've been married and divorced and have kids. I am afraid of getting my heart broken. I believe that is why I am doing this. I've lost control of my life when I was married and now I feel like have control in my life by having two woman. Deep inside I know this is wrong. I want to be a good man for my girlfriend. I really do. User Submitted Advice from a 51-60 year old Female I completely agree with advisors from Romance Class. Speaking from my own experience it is painful to find out you've been faithful to someone who thinks "the grass is greener on the other side". It's a dishonest and dishonorable thing for anyone to cheat on someone you say you love; real love isn't just some mushy feeling, real love takes guts. Bad things, including divorce, happen to good people but it isn't a license to go around and mistreat someone else! Cheating IS a form of ABUSE! You say you have kids,so I wonder are you even remotely considering what kind of a role model you are in this area? Divorce is difficult on kids, too. They have already seen your relationship with thier mother fall apart; do they really need to see you disrespecting someone who has been in your life now for 3 years? No offense meant here but wouldn't you rather your kids grew up seeing thier father being able to stick to a committment? You presumably cared enough to ask for advice so why not take it and be a real man instead of just someone's "boyfriend"? The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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