He Should Miss What He LostWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female I know! I know! I know! Everyone keeps telling me this is going to get easier and that he doesnt deserve me anyways but why do I still feel like Im without a heart anymore. My ex-fiance and i broke up about two weeks ago and we are "friends" now, the problem is we are continuing to have a physical relationship but he still says he doesn't want to be anything but friends. During our relationship I was extremely unhappy and always worried he was cheating on me. I am the one who broke it off in the first place but then I got scared and I did the same old thing trying to "work things out" again. This time he said no. I was devistated, in our relationship I was the perfect girlfriend, and he was always the one who was hurting me, so my question is if I am the one who broke it off and he was doing wrong towards me in our relationship why am I the one suffering right now, shouldn't he be upset about what he lost? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female He hasn't left you sweetheart, he is still getting exactly what he wants from you...the sex. It is easy for us young, beautiful and vivacous women to be so smitten with a man that we become the "perfect girlfriend" and forget our own needs. Your desires took the back-seat while you did any and everything to try and be what he wanted in a mate. Give him the axe--I mean really stop picking up the phone and give him a chance to miss the great girl he lost. Then, do some of the things for yourself that you have been neglecting like getting a pedicure, taking a class, reading or anything that makes you more fabulous. He will come back, and by that time you will know what you want from him (faithfullness I assume). If he can't give it too you somebody else will. Please read "Mama Gena's Owners and Operators Guide to Men" by Regina Thomashaur. It has changed my life! -Amani Murph The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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