Getting Over my ExWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago.I'm only 14 and me and him went out for 4 months.I dunno if that would be considered long or what.But those for months of my life were the best.I had my first kiss with him and first guy I actually got close to.I fell in love with him.I loved him so much. But within those four months me and him broke up twice..but went back out within a week.So..when we broke up this time I was hoping we'd go back out soon.But its been a month now and we haven't yet.And I still like him SO much..and I might even still love him. He's already went out with 2 others girls.So..I believe he's moved on and doesn't like me anymore.But now were still talk like 3 hours on the phone every night,and were good friends.But then at school he can sometimes act like a real jerk..But everytime I'll see him with his girlfriend at the time( he's single right now) or flirting with another girl it just kills me.It seems like all I ever do is think about him.I feel as if I'm obssessed.Which I don't like. I want to move on,forget about him.But everytime I try or I think I am.Then all of a sudden I start thinking about all the great memories of being with him.And I start to like him more and more.Then even at times I almost cry. Why does it still hurt so much?I still hope we'll go back out.But me and him has talked about it,we decided that it probably wouldn't work out and didn't want to go through all the pain we felt when we broke up.But I'm still feeling it.Should I tell him how I feel?What should I do?Or should I just keep trying to get over him?If so how? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Spend Time with Others Getting over an ex is difficult-regardless of how old you are. Your first love is one that you will never forget but you have to look at every relationship as a learning and growing experience. Just remember how special you are and everything that you have to offer. One day you will meet a guy that will appreciate all those things about you. As much as it hurts you, you need to move on with your life. Talking with him for 3 hours on the phone isn't helping. If he doesn't want to be more than friends, than you need to accept that and spend that time doing things for yourself and being with your girlfriends. You are so young and you will have many more relationships. The most imporant thing to remember is that anyone who doesn't want to be with you, isn't worth being with. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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