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We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female i'm 22 and i've fallen in love with a guy who is 26. we were introduced by a friend and we study in the same university. and since the first day we met, there was always an urge in us to get to know each other better. we started off as friends and got closer since then. he spends a lot of time with me and we used to even stay over at each other's place. we have meals together and we behaved like a couple. he would flirt with me. play with my hair, compliment me, joke with me, hold my hands and even took care of me when i was ill. he even bought me flowers on valentine's day. the thing is, we never told each other how we felt. it was only recently that i found out that he had an ex and he still loves her dearly. i was saddened by it and confronted him a week later because i did not want to mess up his mind (he had a job interview then). he told me about her and i told him how i felt. he didn't exactly tell me that he loves me but he did not deny it either. so we just left it that way and continued being friends. since then, i've been trying my best to suppress my true feelings for him and trying to just be friends with him. but he behaved the same way. he still called me everynight and still did things like before. it was like as if nothig has happened. but a month ago, there was a drastic change in attitude in him. i could feel that he was ignoring me because he never bothered replying my phone calls or my text messages. in a way, i feel that it is my fault that he has changed. was it because i was trying too hard to be his friend that i fail to be sensitive towards him? or is he suffering from personal problems? or is he jealous that i'm suddenly quite close to his close friend, because he's avoiding that guy as well. i'm only friends with his close friends, it's strictly platonic. lately, he contacted me again but it feels different. he's not the same guy anymore. i love him very dearly and i don't want to lose his friendship. i tried talking to him but he would not want to open up. what should i do? does he hate me? User Submitted Advice from a unknown year old Person I think he does not see what You mention. Who is his ex. Maybe he does not know. You imagine?? I think maybe he is very busy with his own duties (as you said he recently has job intewview). He needs more time to invest in it. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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