Getting Over my ExWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago.I'm only 14 and me and him went out for 4 months.I dunno if that would be considered long or what.But those for months of my life were the best.I had my first kiss with him and first guy I actually got close to.I fell in love with him.I loved him so much. But within those four months me and him broke up twice..but went back out within a week.So..when we broke up this time I was hoping we'd go back out soon.But its been a month now and we haven't yet.And I still like him SO much..and I might even still love him. He's already went out with 2 others girls.So..I believe he's moved on and doesn't like me anymore.But now were still talk like 3 hours on the phone every night,and were good friends.But then at school he can sometimes act like a real jerk..But everytime I'll see him with his girlfriend at the time( he's single right now) or flirting with another girl it just kills me.It seems like all I ever do is think about him.I feel as if I'm obssessed.Which I don't like. I want to move on,forget about him.But everytime I try or I think I am.Then all of a sudden I start thinking about all the great memories of being with him.And I start to like him more and more.Then even at times I almost cry. Why does it still hurt so much?I still hope we'll go back out.But me and him has talked about it,we decided that it probably wouldn't work out and didn't want to go through all the pain we felt when we broke up.But I'm still feeling it.Should I tell him how I feel?What should I do?Or should I just keep trying to get over him?If so how? User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male Hey, I Dont Realy hav an answer for you but i no how you feel. I used to think i was going crazy i stared seeing this fella at the start of the summer i was only 13 at the time he was my first boyfriend and he gave me my first kiss, I was scared the first time he went to kiss me so i backed away from him, It put him off a bit but i told him i had never seen anyone befor and he was so understanding,He kissed me again and told me not to be scared.We had been dating for 3weeks and something happend I dont no what it was but he backed away for a while then i got him back and he would tell me he loves me an all. There was one night he was drunk and we warnt goin out but he came up to me looking for a kiss i said hold on a sec cause i was talking to somweone then his mate told me not to see him cause he was slabbering bout me all my mates told me they heard him slabbering and dont see himm so i told him no im not gonna see you cause you were slabbering and he cracked up and started saying i wasnt slabbering i love you look in to my eyes so i looked and he told me he loved me!! i went home that night and it was the very last night i saw him (not kissed ) i havent seen him since the end of the summer iv had no other boyfriends but hes had 3girlfriends and the one he has now used to be my best friend. I dont no what to do i cry all the time about him i even tried to kill my self cause i sent loads of love messages to him and he told me he never wants to see me again!What will i do i still love him!!! please mail me with advice at rachel861@hotmail.co.uk Thankyou The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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