Getting Over my ExWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago.I'm only 14 and me and him went out for 4 months.I dunno if that would be considered long or what.But those for months of my life were the best.I had my first kiss with him and first guy I actually got close to.I fell in love with him.I loved him so much. But within those four months me and him broke up twice..but went back out within a week.So..when we broke up this time I was hoping we'd go back out soon.But its been a month now and we haven't yet.And I still like him SO much..and I might even still love him. He's already went out with 2 others girls.So..I believe he's moved on and doesn't like me anymore.But now were still talk like 3 hours on the phone every night,and were good friends.But then at school he can sometimes act like a real jerk..But everytime I'll see him with his girlfriend at the time( he's single right now) or flirting with another girl it just kills me.It seems like all I ever do is think about him.I feel as if I'm obssessed.Which I don't like. I want to move on,forget about him.But everytime I try or I think I am.Then all of a sudden I start thinking about all the great memories of being with him.And I start to like him more and more.Then even at times I almost cry. Why does it still hurt so much?I still hope we'll go back out.But me and him has talked about it,we decided that it probably wouldn't work out and didn't want to go through all the pain we felt when we broke up.But I'm still feeling it.Should I tell him how I feel?What should I do?Or should I just keep trying to get over him?If so how? User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Distract yourself HEY BABE! I feel ur pain. Honestly, I've gone through this one sooo many times. My best advice is to distract yourself as best u can. Just put all the energy u have into something for u. If u've already agreed it wouldn't work out, there's no point in obsessing. Avoid listening to sad love songs or NE thing like that. Don't go to places where u and him always hung out. It's awesome that ur still friends, but maybe staying away from him 4 awhile would help 2. And I also think the best way 2 distract urself is 2 find someone else to like. And if u don't LIKE them, and it hurts too much, it still won't kill u 2 flirt a li'l bit. It's just for fun, and u walk away feeling happy, and it's better than staring off at that one guy. But really, in the end only time will be able to help u get over him. GOOD LUCK! ;) The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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