Two year separationWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7yrs. And in the six year he went alway, and got some girl pregnant. He told me about the girl, and yes I was very hurt. But I thought we could work through it. But when she came down so he could c his son things change. He started acting different. His mom thinks she is ugly, and plus she is upset by the whole thing. Anyway, he said he wanted to be friends, cause it wouldn't be easy starting were we left off. I went along with it, but it was to hard and I just stop talking to him. He said he wants to b there for his son. But at the same time he said he can't choose between me and her. I have not talk to him in almost 2 years. But me and his mom still kind of write to each other. I love him so much, and I still think about him everday. Its driving me crazy. And I know he miss me to. We went through so much together. But I just can't be the one to try to find him and tell him how I feel again. He would have to do that. My question is to u. Do u think he will ever come around. I don't know what's wrong with him. I know he still love me, but I just don't know if I sould forget about him User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male Give it another try That's messed up. But he probably won't be the one to ever contact you unless you do, so you'll have to swallow your pride if you really want him still. Maybe his mother can help if she claims to hate this girl as she say she does? He can still have his son but that's not a real reason to leave you out of his life too, especially if he maybe doesn't love this girl? Maybe he just feels sorry for her financially? Friends of mine have also been in these situations but they let their girls stay with them and some still did stayed with them even with kids outside their relationships. Maybe you should give it another try and arrange something so you, his mother, him and this other girl can talk about it in person because that's a long relationship to throw away for anyone for any reason. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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