How Do I Get her Back?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male For a year and a half this girl wanted to be with me more than anything. We hung out a lot and I just kept telling her I didn't want a girlfriend. Then finally after a year and a half I gave in and went out with her. It was the best time of my life. Then the test was put to us. I had to move for a job. I told her I wouldn't be back for 2 to 5 yrs. We dated still for 15 days after I left. Then she called up one day and said we needed a break. So I went along with it. I loved her so much I did not want it but I did it to make her happy. Then a month later I decided to go home because I wanted to be with her so bad. When I got home I found out that she had been doing something with another guy and after I had been home for a few weeks she started seeing this other guy. That was about 2 months ago. I still talk to her everyday. If I don't call her she will call me. Sometimes she will go out to dinner with me or hang out with me but most of the time she just enjoys talking to me on the phone for long periods of time. She still calls me her best friend but is dating this other guy. I want to be back with her so bad. What do you suggest I do to get her back? User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male She will stay in touch i know very much how you feel. 3 months ago, my girlfriend (now ex) went to Ireland, from our home in england for a job that was to last 6 moths, and seeing as we had been together for what was coming up for a year. Unfortunately, though i was willing to make it work, and be faithful to her, she didn't feel the same. After 1 month, she slept with another guy out there when she was drunk. We broke up for about a day, and i took her back, but warned her if she did it to me again, we would be over. 1 month went by, and 2 days before i was to go and visit her, she sent me a message that she didn't want me to come, because she had been seeing a guy for 2 weeks, and had developed 'strong feelings' for him. I went anyway. Both myself and her friends could only work out that she was with him simply because he was there, and i wasn't, which i know she will regret when she comes home soon. My point is, the woman you are talking about obviously did, and still does like you very much, and i believe that the only reason she started seeing this guy is because she was lonely without you there, and now she is regretting it. My only advice is to hang in there, but don't talk to her all the time. If she calls you, ignore it, or answer and say that you're actuallly quite busy, and will call her back later - then don't. Trust me, I know this is hard to do, especially when you like her so much, and i know that you're probably thinking 'if i don't keep talking to her as much as i do now, she'll get closer to this other guy'. She won't. She obviously has very strong feelings for you, so she will make a hell of a lot fo effort to keep in touch with you. Hope this helps you bud, and i wish you all the luck in the world. Dan. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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