Does he like me?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, I am just curious about the boy I met at church. I've only known him for about 5 or 6 months, and I don't know why but he always act weird when I'm around. And he is ALWAYS around, and I think he is trying to get my attention. Last Sunday, when we were at church, (we are on the same age group so we have the same "Sunday class") I sat beside him and I felt so nervous but I said hi anyway. He said hello, waiting for me to say more but I couldn't. I knew he wasn't comfortable, he was always moving on his chair, fixing his tie, playing with his hands, changing position..breathing fast..I think he was nervous. I was trying to keep my cool.
Well every time I start liking someone, I tend to ignore that person. I think he likes me but I'm not sure. I'm so shy and I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if he likes me.. hope you can help me! THANKS!
If the both of you are very shy people, you may never get together. I think if you want to explore dating him, it will need to be you who leads the way. It sounds like he does like you from what you say, so I hope that will give you the courage to flirt with him a little and get to know him.
Start out with easy questions, like what he thought of a previous sermon or teaching. Ask questions that require longer answers than a simple yes or no response - that will make him talk longer and might ease both of you into being more comfortable talking together.
Make it a point to talk with him a little bit each Sunday, and whenever else you see him. Be friendly and smile at him. Be happy to see him: don't make him guess that you like him.
Take it slow and good luck! Treat this as a good learning experience for you to get over your shyness and to learn to talk to boys. :)
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com