He Broke Up with me BadlyWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I recently went through a breakup and I dont understand at all what to do. I mean everything was going great. He had called me that day and told me that he loved me and was ready to see me and do Valentines. We were together for 11 months...almost a year. I was the first girl that he ever said that he loved. Well that night we met up and from like 7 to 11 he hardly said anything to me.He said that he had to be home at 11, which was weird, but I took him to his car so he would be able to get there in time. When he left he just said bye and got out of the car. I knew something was wrong because he would never let me go anywhere without giving him a kiss. Well since we had been together for so long, our friends were practically the same people. So when he left I called one of his best friends crying. So his friend came and picked me up and took me to his house. Well while we were going to his house, my bf(at the time) called and said that he had left his cell phone that he needed it. So I told him that I would bring it to him later..and he said that he needed it now. Well at that time his friend got on the phone and asked him what he had done to me to make me cry like that. He said that he would come over and talk to him about it. So when I got to his house I went to his bedroom and was crying waiting for my boyfriend to get there. Well he finally showed up and he told all of his friends that I was just like his mom and never let him do anything..well his friend ended up taking up for me and saying that he was always with them, and he was never with me. Which was the truth. By that time I was ready to leave because I couldnt beleive some of the things that he was saying about me, so I tried to leave. His friend wouldnt let me leave because he was afraid that I was going to go and do something stupid. Well all that went on from there before he left was us fighting and then he said that he had to go home. Well when he left I called him and he said that he would call me tomorrow that he was at home and his parents needed to talk to him. So I said ok. Well I went home like at 12 and then a few min later, his friend called me and told me that my boyfriend was in town. So I got back into my car and went to town to find him because he lied to me and said that he had to go home. Well that night we ended up breaking up. Or so called, he said that he wanted a break. He told me that he loved me and he would always love me, but he didnt know if we were meant to be anymore. By that end of the night he said that he regretted being with me and things. He told me that he wanted a break for the time being but it didnt mean that it would stay like that. Well now he has been talking alot of crap on me. His friends have chosen my side because of all the things that he said about me and things. They said that he is completely confused and they dont understand why he did it. He has made of alot of rumors about me. But he checks up on me all the time. Every guy that I talk to he goes and tells them that he is going to beat them up if they dont stop talking to them. But I dont understand if he hates me so much why would he care..and why would he check up on me all the time. Me and my friends catch him looking at me all the time. He doesnt even try to hide it. I'm so confused! I mean I really do love him. I asked him one day why we couldnt just be friends. And he said that he wanted to be. But he keeps talking about me and things. The only thing that I can come up with is that he cant handle being my friend. I dont know what to do!!! Is there anyway that he still cares for me but he just doesnt want me to think so.?????? User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female mixed messages I can empathize with you confusion...this same thing just happened to my daughter. They were both 15 and each other's first loves and his parents who are physco are the reason they broke up but now the boy is so damaged by them he talks sh*t about her to cover up his true feelings. I would guess that he is still attracted to you and wants some of the things your relationship offered to him but isn't willing or cannot put forth the effort it takes to have a realtionship. I wish some guys would respond to this so they can enlighten me as to why boys send mixed messages what could be the reason he is talking trash about someone he once loved???????????? The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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