Its been 1 1/2 monthsWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male Well me and my gf of over a year had a bad break up last month. We lived together, and honestly because of issues i had i made things difficult. She was constantly coming home depressed or staying out late with friends. After a break she decided to call it off, she was happier without me. Soon after she started dating this guy from work whos 8 years older than her (23 and 31). She cut off all contact from me yet i constantly called and emailed her for almost 3 weeks asking her to reconsider. Well then i stopped and occassionally emailed her while she was out of the country for 3 weeks and even had two online chats with her. On the last she said she was sorry for the way things worked out and said that was the last time she was going to contact me. I started working on me after the first 3 weeks by traveling, doing adventurous things, and quitting smoking. She also told me that she had a problem i had a kid and was married once before, she was cool with it and knows its a part of my past before, and that my daughter has a good family now with the ex and her new fiance. Basically i'm lost, i want her back, but not holding my breath and have no idea where to go from here. Practicing no contact is tough, but i'm doing it. She really does seem happier now. Any advice? User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male Let her go Been there - Done that - Really hurts; except I lost my one year GF to the local burger king manager after getting a 60 hour a week retail job (and not being able to spend hardly any time with her). The work guy was probably waiting in the wings (she was talking to him on lunch break about her problems with you). My advice to you: she's already hooked up again and moved on, so let her go. The sooner you get another roommate (preferably a hottie), the sooner you'll quit lamentating and the better off you'll be. Also lose the issues (and the cigarettes) and think only positives (tongue and panties) about your next girlfriend. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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